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How we keep this space safe

Our Community Rules

Welcome! This app is built by us, for us. It is a safe place to find a home where you can completely be yourself, without having to hide who you are.

To use this app, whether you are looking for a room, sharing a flat, or renting out a space, you must agree to look out for each other. Here is how we do that:

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What "Neuroaffirming" Means to Us

To us, being neuroaffirming is simple: We believe your brain is perfect just the way it is.

We do not try to fix, change, or tolerate each other. Instead, we work together to build a home where everyone's brain can rest, recharge, and feel safe.

1. Your Diagnosis Doesn't Matter. You Matter.

We know that getting a doctor's diagnosis can be hard, expensive, and take years. We do not care about paperwork. We care about you.

You are welcome here if you have an official diagnosis.
You are welcome here if you figured it out yourself (self-diagnosed).
You are welcome here if you are still figuring things out or waiting for a test.

The Rule: No one is allowed to ask for "proof" of your neurodivergence or question your needs.

2. Respecting Our Senses

Sensory overload isn't just "annoying". It can cause real physical pain and burnout. A safe home means having control over your environment.

For landlords: You must let tenants make small, reversible changes to feel safe. This means letting them change bright bulbs to soft lighting, put up sound panels, or replace noisy, humming appliances.
For flatmates: Respect that things like strong cooking smells, sudden loud noises, or surprise guests can hurt someone else's nervous system. These are not "drama". They are basic safety needs.

3. Plain, Direct Communication

Guessing "unwritten rules" or reading between the lines causes massive anxiety. We say what we mean, gently and clearly.

Be direct: It is completely okay to say: "My social battery is dead. I am going straight to my room and won't be talking tonight. I am not mad at you."
No guessing games: Write things down. Use chore charts or text messages to agree on how the house runs. No one should have to "just know" what needs to be done.

4. It's Okay to Disappear (Parallel Play)

You never have to perform or entertain people in your own home.

We love Parallel Play. This means two people sitting in the same living room, doing completely different things, without any pressure to talk to each other.

No one will ever judge you, guilt you, or think you are being rude for staying in your room to recharge.

5. Gender, Orientation, and You

You will never be forced to pick a title like Mr or Ms here, and nobody's gender is assumed. 'They' is our default word until you tell us yours, and then it is used without fuss.

Non-binary, trans, asexual, and aromantic members are not an afterthought here. Your needs are part of the pledge, not a footnote.

Nobody asks about your body, your hormones, or your love life. Asexual and aromantic members never have to explain that a home without romance is a complete home.
Households can state that they are LGBTQ+-affirming. Affirming means names respected, pronouns used without drama, and no awkward questions at the door.
Your pronouns, if you share them, appear on your profile exactly as you write them. There is no 'other' box here, because there is no 'standard' to be other than.

The Rule: Outing someone, deadnaming them, or demanding they justify their gender, orientation, or diagnosis gets one response: removal.

What is Not Allowed Here

To keep everyone safe, we will immediately remove anyone who does these things:

Telling someone to mask. Asking a flatmate to "act normal", stop fidgeting, make eye contact, or "just get over it".

Surprise visits. Landlords turning up without text notice, or flatmates bringing people over without warning.

Shaming. Using someone's sensory needs or executive dysfunction against them during an argument.

Probing & outing. Asking about someone's body, outing them, or demanding they justify their gender, orientation, or diagnosis.

If something feels wrong, the Safety & Reporting flow takes under a minute, in your own words.